Month: February 2018

Our Stories – 1 – Bethany’s Birth and becoming a mum for the first time



Bethany was due on the 19th September, the day before Brett was due to leave to go away on business for 2 weeks, so as you can guess we were eager to get her born so he could be there to witness it.

We approached the midwife who recommended we went into the hospital to speak with their midwives/Doctor who would be able to book us in for an induction a few days before hand as Beth was growing fine and was measuring ahead of her dates anyways.
Unfortunately at the appointment the Doctor said he wouldn’t allow me to be induced so we would just need to let nature take it’s course.

So the 19th rolled round and nothing,so off Brett went to France and then onto Italy whilst I stayed at home awaiting a twinge to signal the start of the new chapter of our lives!
The morning of the 26th was that day… I got up had a shower and just didn’t feel right, twinges were coming but not regular. I got out the shower and tootled into my parents room where my mam was on the phone to my Aunty down in Yorkshire saying not to come up this weekend as it didn’t look like anything was going to be happening any time soon… little did she know!
So she hangs up and I said I think something is happening… her answer oh gosh i best dry my hair first!!

So we headed off for a walk on the beach with Hamish and I climbed sand dunes to try get the contractions to become regular..

Walk complete we headed home for lunch and for me to make that all important phone call to Brett. So I ring him and tell him I think its happening and he starts discussing getting a plane back which in hindsight was a really silly idea as then his car would be in Italy and customers with no transport!!

Anyway I tell him I’ll call him with updates and he continues to sup his beer over in Italy!

Contractions are cracking on so my mam decides its time to go over to the hospital. Dad drops us off, I get checked out and they say sorry you are only 3cm go home and labor there for now. So poor dad has just arrived back home 15 miles away, ate his KFC and has to come back to get us!
We get back and I decide I need a toffee crisp and a magazine so off I tootle to the coop and have to stop mid way round for a contraction. Whilst paying another one starts and the cashier is oblivious and talking away and I’m trying to breathe through the blinking thing and just wishing i was back in the car!!
So back home and into the bath with my magazine and toffee crisp. I refuse to get out until xfactor starts then I pace the living room watching that. Again refusing to go back to hospital until that is finished! My dad demands we go back through so again mam, dad, me and my brother hop in the car- well I roll into the car- and off to the hospital we go!!

This time I am 6cm and I refuse to go home so the Midwife books me in ad suggests another bath as the birthing pool isn’t available.
So more laboring in the bath and calling Brett to update him and again he suggests a flight back which we poo poo as it would take longer for him to get here than labor will hopefully be.

Time ticks on and the bath isn’t helping with the pain so out I get and I get a shot of pethidene and use the birthing ball. Funniest bit of my labor happens here… Since it’s a Saturday night the lottery has happened so my mam was wondering if we’ve won so im checking and bouncing on this ball and I’ve had a few shots of gas and air by this point and we just start laughing and my mam decides to ask in the quietest voice if she can have a go on this ball so off I get and on she gets and practically rolls off it straight away!! it was super funny and I really wish I’d filmed my birth so this could of been on record!

The midwife comes in and checks me and says I’m very nearly there but shes off on her break so hold on!!
She comes back after her break at 3am and has just had a curry and a pint of coke so comes in and realises I’m ready to push but is bursting for a wee so runs out, thankfully the other midwife was there and she makes it back in time to deliver Bethany. However whilst I am pushing I am holding my mam’s hand and bite her so they gave me the end off the gas and air to bite!
When Bethany is crowning she is still intact in her ‘bag’ and it looks like she is coming out in a water balloon. They burst the bag and after a few more pushes my first beautiful princess is born and placed straight onto my chest. My mam who is now officially a Gran cuts her cord. I am now a mother!!

Welcome to the World Bethany. Born at 3.38am on Sunday 27th September 2009.

I call Brett and it is 5am over there, he answers the phone and I say Hello Daddy and tell him he has a beautiful daughter who looks like him and I hear his business partner say Congratulations. I tell him I’ll call him later to tell him her weight etc. and dad will email him some pictures when he collects mam.

Bethany is weighed and weighs in at a healthy 7lb 2oz. We get moved up on to the ward at 7am and once I’m settled my mam leaves to go home.

I Get transferred Via my dad in my green corsa (First car!!haha!) at 3pm that afternoon to the maternity hospital for a night to get some help and advise from there. My dad arrives on the ward with the car seat and I’m desperate for the toilet so I ask him to hold Bethany. It’s the first time he’s met her, so he’s overwhelmed at having this baby, all brand new and he hold’s her at arms length, one hand under her bottom and the other under her head and he’s still in the same position when I come back!!
So we get her into the car and up to the maternity unit and my mam and brother are waiting up there to see Bethany.
I get settled and then they are allowed in and my grandma and my aunt arrive too to see Bethany. After visitng is finished I have some tea (- I choose salad(!) for tea, don’t ask me why!!) 

What an amazing experience it was and it was incredible to have my Mam there to help get me through it and support me especially with Brett not being there. Yes it hurt but it’s true that once the baby is here you forget about it immediately.

So that’s how I became a mam for the first time. What a roller coaster and amazing journey that was just beginning!

Siblings February 2018

My girls have a great relationship but like all siblings they can squabble. However at the moment, especially because its been the half term holidays this past week they have really enjoyed being with each other and playing so lovely together.

They have had days when they have squirreled away in Bethany’s bedroom making a barbie world, which I can remember doing as a little girl, and played for near enough a full day with their barbies. Making them a bowling alley, a cinema experience and basically just having fun in each others company. The ‘World’ is still set up so its a case of stepping over to get around Beth’s bedroom but they have loved playing there together.

Yesterday to round off the week we headed up to Thrunton for a walk as a family. The girls loved it, they each took their back packs with a challenge list in (and snacks of course!!) of what they had to find whilst up there. It really kept them involved and motivated to keep walking up the trails. We came back filthy but had a fab time!
This weeks holiday has really strengthened the girls’ bond and im super excited to see how their bond develops even more since there is some changes coming our way soon!! Ekk!!!